Wednesday, July 14, 2010

What goes around... comes back around..

While my title may seem a little too Justin Timberlake, what goes around does come back around. I've been in some less than desirable relationships. More than I would like to admit have ended with me getting cheated on. Every time it happened I thought it was the end of the world, my heart was completely broken, and I would never love or trust again. I would always get the same advice from friends, "You'll find someone better," or, "he didn't deserve you," and my favorite, "karma is a bitch." Oddly enough, while this advice may sound like bullshit at the time, it really does ring true. Let me correct myself, it will ring true IF instead of getting even you let it go, instead of getting cold you continue to have an open heart, and instead of not trusting you just become a little more picky about who you do trust.

How do I know this is true? I live it every day. Once I let go of my anger and hurt, I met the man I now call my husband. I did find someone better that does deserve me and all that I have to give. I don't question where he is when he leaves my side, and I have never even felt the urge to check his voicemail. We have the type of relationship that really does last forever. Waking up next to him every morning makes all those times I thought I was "so in love" seem so very insignificant.

Where karma comes into play. One of my previous relationship endeavors (names will be left out) that ended with him cheating on me with his ex girlfriend and moving across to country to be with her was recently brought to my attention. She ended up cheating on him after he followed her. When I saw his post with that information, I actually didn't think any of the things I thought I would. I should have been thinking, "I told you so," or "karma got ya, bitch!" I didn't. No, I felt sorry for him. It's odd how you wait and wait for karma to show her face, but she does it after your pain and anger are gone. What you thought would be "sweet revenge" actually turns into pity. This person that hurt you so bad now just isn't important anymore. It turns into more of a reminder to live right and treat others fairly with love and respect whether they deserve it or not because something bigger than you will take care of them.

My life advice: Live your life the best you can, be altruistic, and remember that other people are usually doing the best they can. You will never be punished for doing good, and karma will take care of those that take advantage of the good ones. Trust me, I've seen it..

Friday, July 9, 2010

Ahhh Germany

So, I've been in Germany over a month now. The longer I'm here, the more annoyed I get it seems. Please keep in mind I'm going on my 8th month of pregnancy, I don't sleep well, and it is 90 degrees outside with no ac inside except for our bedroom.

~No AC?!?! WTF?!?!
When I say no air conditioning anywhere but our bedroom, I mean it. For example, on Sunday, Noah and I went to the movies to see Shrek. By the time we got out of the movie (which was fabulous), our clothes were soaked in sweat. Yep, no ac even in the movie theater.

~Chivalry? How about just common courtesy?
I know that I've turned into a horrible, grouchy pregnant lady, but common courtesy here is non existent. I'm all too often left standing on the train while young men take up all the seats without it even crossing their little minds to offer it to the lady about to pop that is sweating profusely. Even worse, a man(40-50) cut in front of me at the ice cream place on my birthday. That is actually just dangerous. He's lucky I didn't bite him!!!

~German "fashion" LMAO-- here is some advice...
1. If you are wearing a tube top, wear a strapless bra. I don't think I've seen one girl here with a tube top or tank top without bra straps showing. It's tacky/trashy.

2. If you are wearing a white shirt or white shorts, you should wear white bra/panties. Again, looking at your zebra panties and green bra through your clothes is extremely trashy. I know they sell white bras and panties, even strapless ones. I bought one here!

3. Socks and sandals should ALWAYS be worn separately. If it is too chilly for sandals, DON'T WEAR THEM!! Please put on closed toe shoes.

4. I understand that being a ginger must be cool here, but red hair does not work for everybody. Actually, the only people I know the shade of red that is worn here works for is Bozo the Clown and Ronald McDonald. I know there is a lot of pain and suffering associated with this city, but every other woman tapping into their inner clown probably isn't going to help. Try smiling at each other instead. Smiling is my favorite!!! And it looks good on most people... to my next point..

5. Swish with flouride daily, floss daily, and brush your teeth at least twice a day. Deodorant is not optional. It is the hottest summer ever. Please wear it. I carry mine with me and reapply as needed. Just an idea..

6. Along with the history of the city comes a desire for the youth to be individuals. While I'm all for individuality, I don't really consider it being an individual when your whole group of friends have the same black hair, nose rings, lip rings, facial piercings, and black clothing you have on.

That's just my $.02 for the day. We finally have internet again, so hopefully I can get back to blogging regularly.